When is it appropriate to call time of death on a friendship?
Most friendships just end naturally, you drift apart and just don't talk anymore.
There are friendships that end in fights. But from TV to Ann Landers most mediums send the message that the friendship is more important than the fight. Burrying the hatchet will leave you with a friendship to last a lifetime. Leaving that hatchet to loiter in the sun will leave you with a lifetime of regret. With all this helpful advice it would seem that no matter the cause of the blowout friends should stay friends forever.
Relationships break up. There is almost invariably a moment that can be cited as the official break up. While often it is argued that the relationship was emotionally over a long time previous to the offical T.O.D. there is usually a point that can be said without question that the relationship is done.
Friendships rarely part with such precision.
What if a relationship is toxic? Dissappointing? Is it possible to call an end to a friendship without being labeled as someone callous?
The real question of this entry I guess is, did I use callous in the right context? Did I even spell it right? Damn my laziness. Dictionary.com is not that far away and yet callous (sic???) remains unchecked.
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Over thinking things since 1984
Over thinking things since 1984
6 comments:
As far as I can tell, you did use callous correctly. And yes, it is possible to call a friendship to an end if it's no longer a friendship without being callous. Burying the hatchet is obviously optimal, but if for some reason it can't be buried and the relationship remains unhealthy, then ending it is not (I don't think, anyways) callous.
People move on. It happens. So yes, friendships end, and they end for a number of different reasons that depend on the people involved. And I don't think this is limited to "bad" friendships. Sometimes you outgrow things, or circumstances interfere. Like, I know I had friends who I was close to when I was younger, but now I don't speak with them (people move away, you move away, you make new friends, etc.). But is it always obvious when they're over? (I agree with you on that part - unless there was a clean break, it seems like it's usually just a drifting and then suddenly you realize.)
I need to catch up on sleep, so I might not be making any sense right now.
I feel that burying the hatchet is not always optimal. For example, sometimes your ex-friend is a blood sucking zombie lich who will use her powers of necromancy to raise an undead army to come and eat your brain. And when that happens, you're probably going to really wish you had kept that hatchet, cause now you're going to have to hack off zombie parts with your hands, and that is not a fun time my friend.
ah, that's when you get out the cedar spikes and whatnot. no wait, that's vampires. but you'll need more than a hatchet, and preferably not buried.
ah, that's when you get out the cedar spikes and whatnot. no wait, that's vampires. but you'll need more than a hatchet, and preferably not buried.
two? intruiging.
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